Trying to recapture a lost love is a delicate situation.
Emotions may still be raw.
Feelings may be easily hurt.
Getting back with your ex girlfriend may not be impossible, but you must have a plan and move cautiously.
"Can't I get my ex girlfriend back?" is the question you ask.
The answer is possibly.
To get back with your ex girlfriend, there are many things you must consider.
Have you decided what you did that contributed to the breakup? You need to determine what went wrong, what you did that ran the relationship aground.
Then you can decide if the relationship is worth trying to salvage.
After you figure out what really caused the breakup, and the part you played in it, you can develop a plan for expressing genuine sorrow for your actions.
Already you probably know whether she will accept your sincere apology, or if you will have to prove to her the apology is genuine.
Do not cut yourself off from your friends.
Do not mope about the house in a depression, believing the world has ended.
Get out a little.
Socialize with your friends.
If you are serious about winning back your ex girlfriend, dating other girls could bring problems that you would rather not deal with down the road.
So if you choose to date, be very careful.
If you are dating again, the message you are sending is that you have moved on and your ex girlfriend should do likewise.
You should be slow to get back into circulation if you are genuinely interested in winning back your ex girlfriend.
Instead of looking for someone new, you must let your ex girlfriend know that you are still interested in her and you want to work through the difficulties that brought about the breakup.
It would be most helpful if you work to become friends again with your ex girlfriend.
Remember to focus on those qualities that attracted you to her the first time.
A relationship based on friendship has room to grow.
It is much easier to become lovers after becoming friends.
As you are building the friendship with your ex girlfriend, you should have an opportunity to ask her why she gave up on the relationship.
You may be surprised when her answer names things entirely different than those you thought wrecked the relationship.
This could be your opportunity to get a better understanding of the things that she considers to be deal breakers.
Once you know what really brought the relationship to a close, you can make a mental note to avoid those things in the future.